> but when the time does come to be verbally cruel to someone you should be very cruel.
I'm having trouble picturing justified life-ruining verbal cruelty. Cruelty itself, (callous disregard, or pleasure in another's suffering) seems to me to be an evil thing, one that debases the practitioner, regardless how much they might think someone deserves it.
This sounds like a very strong stance on the Sinosphere. Even then it is standing strong and (bearly) functioning, at least in Japan and Taiwan. Hong Kong has entered a state of Fear now, and China has no honor. How is the problems of honor culture comparable to the Fear culture of the third world (Least Developed Countries)? What about the counter-intuition of western Justice/Guilt cultures (see: "Social Justice Warriors", "White Guilt")?
> you shouldn’t say something explicitly and directly cruel to someone unless you would be okay with those words ruining their life ... mid-level cruelty is rarely, if ever, a good idea
> but when the time does come to be verbally cruel to someone you should be very cruel.
I'm having trouble picturing justified life-ruining verbal cruelty. Cruelty itself, (callous disregard, or pleasure in another's suffering) seems to me to be an evil thing, one that debases the practitioner, regardless how much they might think someone deserves it.
> Honor cultures are bad
This sounds like a very strong stance on the Sinosphere. Even then it is standing strong and (bearly) functioning, at least in Japan and Taiwan. Hong Kong has entered a state of Fear now, and China has no honor. How is the problems of honor culture comparable to the Fear culture of the third world (Least Developed Countries)? What about the counter-intuition of western Justice/Guilt cultures (see: "Social Justice Warriors", "White Guilt")?
> you shouldn’t say something explicitly and directly cruel to someone unless you would be okay with those words ruining their life ... mid-level cruelty is rarely, if ever, a good idea
This does sound like the impact bell curve from In Pain Sight, that moderate ambition requires the most concealment. https://swellandcut.com/2018/09/26/in-plain-sight/